Thursday, May 28, 2009
Lesbian wedding painting
I am so disappointed at California's decision this week regarding gay marriage.
Ever since I was younger-and even while I spent sometime actively involved in a Pentecostal Christian church- I disagreed with the stand taken against homosexuals.
The question has always seemed as easy as the answer:
How can anyone say to someone else "you can not love" because of....(sex, race, religion)?
Who am I (or you?) to state that LOVE is wrong?
Why the thought that homosexuals cannot love in the same way as heterosexuals?
What is the fear behind giving homosexuals the right to have their relationships be accepted as loving and life affirming?
Having been in the church, I know that there is a shared belief that only heterosexual romantic love comes from God. The belief is that same-sex love experiences are not equal to heterosexual love, thus they oppose marriage.
The possibility of gay marriage seems to suggest-to some people- that this will make gay relationships more 'wholesome' and accepted; but why should gays not have the right to be accepted into a society that they are already a part of?
Another argument I have often heard is that a gay union does not produce children-'the main reason for marriage'. What would they say to our union? Sergio and I, after three years of trying to conceive, have opted NOT to go the fertility specialist route. Our union has not produced children. Does that invalidate our love, our marriage?
Marriage is not just a romantic need for couples-nor is it a privilege, it is a right to be given to two people who decide to enter a committed relationship. It has implications for the couple in society, in medical and financial situations, and more. Strengthening a love relationship in our communities can bring only good to our community!
Only years ago the same thing was being done to bi-racial marriages, before that to women, African Americans, Native Americans and on and on. Recognizing the humanity of these minorities has never produced anything negative: only positive!
When we strengthen the individual we strengthen our families, our communities-our world!