I have been working on an article for a magazine about Nature vs Nurture.
There are SO many feelings that have "come up" for me as I write it... my feelings as a mom: nurturing my child with complete devotion and unconditional love.
I have written paragraphs and deleted them.
Now I understand the typical vision of the writer with the mountains of crumpled up papers all around them!
Writing about Nature vs Nurture has also brought up my own experience of nature/nurture within my family of origin.... an dysfunctional family which has brought me great sadness and confusion as my mother always offered up conditional love, stripping me of the unconditional love that only a parent can gift.
I have written in detail different experiences with my own mother.....
I have written pages, and pages.... and then deleted them.
In writing things down I have found things that I have only spoken about but had not "seen" .
Funny how writing does this (and why journaling is SO important). It is as though a thought spoken is now formed into shapes
letters and paragraphs.... dots and commas...and more dots. And there it is.
Truth. Questioning. Erasing.
Veiling some painFULL things. Protecting myself.
It has been very similar to the process of painting.
Sometimes I have painted over certain areas of a painting, not really led by need, but more so with curiosity a "how would this color look like here"?
Other times I have painted over the whole thing in white gesso-starting something new on something 'old' (the under painting is always visible via texture or simply via the energy left behind of the first piece).
A few times, only a few.... I have cut a canvas into tiny pieces and salvaged a tiny square- (once from a 32" x 32" painting, I salvaged a square that was about 9" x 9") and collaged it to a new canvas creating a different piece born out of it.
Do you see the metaphor here? Because I certainly do!
It is very similar to the process of life.
Sometimes we need to take out our "life brush" and change a certain area of our lives-
maybe something we have been doing for years that needs to change.
A new work out routine for example .... I was practicing Pilates for years, and 6 months ago I began to practice Baptiste style yoga instead: it has been an AWEsome practice and I never even really thought I needed to 'change' as I was "content" with Pilates... but one afternoon, curiosity led me to the Yoga studio. And I stayed.
Other times we need to start things over.
Re create what is, yet in a different way.
Sometimes it is best to cut out and salvaging of what you have going for your life and make a humongous change in your life ....
a move to an entirely new place, a career shift, marriage, divorce.
Sergio and I have done this too, the move, the divorce, the marriage.
Huge changes that shook our worlds yet made it the fantastic *BLISSfull life* we live now!
What changes can you make in YOUr life to bring more *BLISS* into your life?
The first step to create ANY type of change in your life is to have a support system- what is popularly being called "Your tribe" .
You, just as you are ...you "belong" to a group "somewhere" out there.
There are wonderful people who are like minded individuals whom you will be able to relate to, lean on, share with... they really are out there!People who will understand, love and support YOU!
It is imperative that you find and belong to a "tribe" that will allow you to be the full and 'unveiled' expression of YOU.
Why is this important? You need accountability...and that, can only happen when you are being honest with yourself and your "tribe".
What if you don't have friends you consider your tribe...how can you find your tribe?Easy... join a group/class/church or other spiritual path/meet up group/Facebook group.... if it is something that absolutely excites you and you think "whoa..this is me".... you have found your tribe!
Begin with what is most important to you, and only you.
Remember that just as a painting or a book can take several months to finish... change too is a process and it can be taken in baby steps.....
This is where you have to be a bit "selfish"... and remind yourself that the whole 'flight preparedness' thing applies to life too: in other words:
put on your oxygen mask before you reach out to help others.
- If I don't change this will it DIRECTLY affect my well-being and mood?
- If I don't implement change for this will it make me frustrated, stressed or depressed?
- If I change this, will it elevate my mood leading me to be an overall better person in other areas of my life?